Dear Graham Norton: 'I have little in common with my husband now we've retired'

Graham Norton
Dear Graham: 'I can’t find common ground with my husband' Credit: Andrew Crowley/Alamy Stock Photo

Dear Graham

I love my husband, to whom I have been married for 21 years, very much. It seems, however, that we have very little in common. I have an active social life, in which he does not wish to join.

We are in our late 60s/early 70s, and enjoyed a very varied life before retirement; but my husband is no longer interested in enjoying that aspect of my life.

Occasionally he complains of my never being at home. I would love to do more with him, but all he does is watch sport on television – he is not at all interested in eating out, the cinema, clubs or anything.

I feel a bit lonely, as we’re expats, but a bit guilty as we are missing out as a couple. I have no intention of giving up my friends...

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