Dear Graham Norton: How do I explain to my choir I can't afford to join them for drinks?

Graham says: 'there is no way around this, so learn to live with it' Credit: Andrew Crowley/Alamy

Dear Graham

I recently joined a good amateur choir; we are taking part in festivals and competitions around the country. It is a wonderful experience but I have a small income and the cost of travel is considerable. As I got to know the rest of the group, they started to ask me to join them at pubs or restaurants during breaks in our rehearsals and performances. Initially I offered a couple of feeble excuses, before returning to my sandwiches and my Daily Telegraph; but they persevered, and I have been persuaded a couple of times. It was very enjoyable. I was, however, shocked by the expense. How can I explain to these lovely people that I simply cannot afford to join them every time? A further...

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