Dear Graham Norton: 'My ‘soulmate’ is holidaying with another man – should I end it?'

Graham Norton
Dear Graham Norton: 'My ‘soulmate’ is holidaying with another man – should I end it? Credit: Andrew Crowley/Alamy

Dear Graham

I’m a 44-year-old man who’s been in a 20-year same-sex relationship. After many years of discussion he moved into my rented flat 18 months ago with a view to our buying a bigger place together. He’s been slow to move forward, though (he has the capital we’d need), and even pulled out of one sale saying it wasn’t a good idea after all.

He also has foul mood swings. Sometimes he comes home from work and won’t speak to me at all, then snaps when I start a conversation. We have split up several times, but something always draws us back together. Lately, though, he’s been spending a lot more time with a friend in Florida (even though we “can’t afford” to travel together). He knows I was...

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